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I hope you’ll join me in my new home at caringjen.com!

I just felt called to expand my site and put more intention into my business.

With much love, light, and gratitude,
Jen ❤

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Just jump already

I really enjoy JP Sears and his humor. It reminds me to not be so serious and dogmatic, and to laugh at life. We don’t have to be super serious, easily offended delicate flowers. By the very nature of enlightenment, everything should be amusing. I can’t say I’m amused by everything, but one phrase that keeps popping into my awareness lately is “limiting belief.” I laugh every time I hear it. Not because it’s funny to have limiting beliefs and never fulfill your potential, but because we all have them and we can all relate to them. And we can all blame them.

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I recently received word that an acquaintance of mine intends to sign up for Reiki attunements with me. I’m really excited because I like her very much and I can’t wait to be her mentor and champion. She’s excited because she likes me and wants me to be her mentor. It’s a win-win. When I originally extended the offer to teach, I was very clear that I don’t want cost to get in the way of anyone receiving an attunement they desperately want. Still, this subject came up as an obstacle for her. I reiterated my feelings on the matter, and she took some time to process that. She decided that she would begin class next month when she could pay me for the class.

Unfortunately, this woman was told years ago that she wasn’t “ready” for Reiki training. It still hurts my heart when I think about that. What a load of crap. But this was a heavy blow for her, and she is still untangling herself from the consequences of believing that person. She’s holding herself back a little, trying to make absolutely sure that she is really ready for this. Being on the other side of the process, I think it’s silly and she should just jump already. But everyone comes to things in their own time.

It’s so easy when you’re on the other side of a situation to observe the silliness and hesitation and holding back. You know that when those people you’re watching decide to finally take the plunge, they will be relieved, and it will not be nearly as bad as they’re making it out to be in their mind. Their doubts and procrastinations are the manifestations of their limiting beliefs. It’s a bunch of nonsense that is keeping you from doing what you really want to do, and very likely what you’re meant to do.

We all have them. Sometimes it isn’t easy at all to get yourself out from under them. Sometimes you don’t even realize you have them! Ultimately, it is a symptom of not trusting. Those who jump know that they are going to be ok, no matter what the outcome. They may not get what they think they want, but they realize they’re getting something even better. They listen to the little voice inside them that sometimes whispers and sometimes screams so loudly it’s deafening. They follow direction from their higher self, inner child, guardian angels, guides – whatever they believe is helping them navigate from a place of knowingness.

I watched a speaker on YouTube recently who said whenever he gets an idea, he acts on it immediately. He’s a seemingly rich, seemingly successful guy. This, he proclaims, is one of the tools he uses to maintain his lifestyle. I have to admit, sometimes I get an idea that I’d really like to live in a multi-million dollar home in Sedona. And while I acknowledge that it isn’t completely out of the realm of possibility, I’m not going to bet the farm on it. But I do think that if you take the grandiose out of the sentiment, it makes good sense. If you have an idea or an urging that isn’t leaving you alone, you owe it to yourself to look into it. Or, if you hear a voice that’s loudly and clearly telling you to do something, you probably should look into it. Do a little digging. Pay attention. Are people coming into your experience who know about the subject you’re called to? Is a teacher presenting themselves to you, without you even knowing you wanted one? Things happen for a reason, my friends. And when you start to notice the serendipity, please – I beg you – just jump already!

With much love, light, and gratitude,

Jen

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Daily practices

Ask any life coach and they’ll tell you that having a daily (usually morning) routine is the best way to stay focused and balanced. Ask me, and I’ll tell you that this is one of the things I struggle with the most. I don’t know about you all, but it really gets to me, too. I know it’s a good thing to do, and I know I’ll be better off for having done it, but I just can’t get myself to establish any kind of routine – especially in the morning. I’ll get one going, and I’ll be gaining a bunch of momentum, then something happens and I’m thrown off schedule and it takes me two weeks to get back to some semblance of routine. I’m exhausted just relaying to you how difficult this seems to be for me.

I decided recently that I was creating so much resistance by forcing myself to create a morning routine. My evenings are generally much more consistent since my “day job” is actually a night job. I often get home around 11 p.m., and rarely do I get to sleep before 1 a.m. Since I have felt a strong desire to cultivate a daily Reiki practice, I chose for my new routine to give myself a Reiki self-treatment before I sleep. Every. Day.

I recently reached my 30-day milestone. It was kind of a big deal. I managed to give myself Reiki every single day for 30 consecutive days. I’d like to say that the only thing I did was switch my expectation from doing it every morning to doing it every evening. Although that helped tremendously, the truth is, it was more than that. First, I had a much stronger drive to do the Reiki. It is much more appealing to me than just regular old meditation. (To me, it’s a snoozefest, but I absolutely respect and honor those who have a regular old meditation practice!) Second, I had to identify the cog in the wheel – timing. “Sure,” I thought, “if I do it in the morning, it sets me up to start my day calm and centered.” But in reality, I think I need the Reiki more at night. Especially on work nights, when I come home from a busy veterinary hospital, seeing patients during hours when other clinics aren’t open, dealing with clients who don’t have the money to go to an actual emergency clinic. We typically see sicker animals, poorer clients, and the staff is stretched a little thinner than other shifts. So it is as I finish that part of my day when I need the recharge, the detox, the centering, and the calm.

Of course, my Reiki work schedule also sets me up to start my days with Reiki. So I’m kind of in a Reiki sandwich. But since appointments aren’t consistent, I don’t count that as a daily practice. Yet! One day I hope to have Reiki be my whole day. It makes me warm inside just imagining it. 😀

What’s your daily practice? What keeps your battery charged? When do you execute your routine? I’d love to hear from you, so comment below!

With much love, light, and gratitude,

Jen

 

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Startup on a shoestring

I’ve dabbled in micro-business ownership for a good number of years, and from my first venture in 1999, I’ve created a web presence. There are various reasons why I’ve moved on from each venture. My dog training business left me in total burnout, and I had to completely switch gears and do something different for a while. My Esthetics/Reiki business was plugging along until I jumped into animal dermatology and moved to Phoenix. The businesses I’ve embarked upon in the past were all face to face businesses. By focusing solely on Reiki, I can work from home and sometimes meet clients only on Skype. This is providing me the leisure of growing at a slower pace, with less on the line. If you are looking to create a web presence for yourself but find that you’re not loaded with capital to jump in the deep end, maybe the resources I’ve found can help you out.

Several years ago, I purchased my own domain and had a website. Since moving to Phoenix, it became way too much of a time and money suck, but I didn’t want to lose my domain. So I have it still, but no website. That costs me about $10/year through GoDaddy. I have found that a Facebook page is a great free alternative, and most people are already on it all the time anyway. A Facebook page can be much more easily dynamic and engaging, and there are so many tools available now that you can pretty much run your whole business through your page. (I haven’t even scratched the surface yet, and I’m sure many of you could teach me a thing or two.) Facebook is really moving toward lots of videos, and you can “Go Live” and stream to your page if you want to commit to a regular schedule of checking in with your followers via video. I have a friend who runs a fitness coaching business and she uses the “Go Live” feature just about every day. I recently uploaded my first video to post to my page, which I shot on my cell phone, propped up by a $10 selfie stick! I talked about Reiki and attunements, just to give people a little idea of what it all is. We’ll see what kind of response I get, but I think it’s a nice touch and provides some validity to let people see you, especially if you’re running a business completely online.

Having a personalized email is a very handy tool, and if someone owns their own domain, they can get email hosting through Google Apps for Work for $5/month for a single user. That way I have my personalized domain email I can use, without the hassle of maintaining a website. UPDATE: I recently canceled Google Apps and joined Zoho Mail and have my domain email hosting for free. Their free account offers up to 25 addresses on one domain.

MailChimp is a free newsletter service you can use to email your clients. They have great templates, and you can set up a sign-up page right on Facebook. It is really advantageous to have that domain name and email hosting for this, though, as they warn that using a Gmail or similar email address as a sending address can increase your chances of being marked as spam. Before I found Google Apps, I did use my Gmail account, but I don’t think I got the same response as when I was using my own domain email. From now on, I will use my domain email for my newsletters.

Facebook also offers integration with Appointy‘s scheduling site. There, of course, are premium services you can purchase, but their basic scheduling is free. And you can install an add-on to your Facebook page, enabling people to book right from your page. You can even set up Appointy to take pre-payment through PayPal when people book appointments with you.

I was super uneasy about including my personal cell phone number on my marketing material. I wanted a layer of privacy, but I didn’t want a second phone, so I did some digging and found the answer – again from Google! With Google Voice, you can set up a free local phone number, which you can send to your existing cell phone. It took a little tweaking and playing around with it for me to discover that when someone calls on my Google Voice number, a message plays when I answer. I have the option at that time to accept the call or let it go to voicemail before the caller even knows I’ve answered. So I don’t have to worry about answering a call that I’m not prepared to really answer – like if I’m out running errands or something. You can set up a separate voicemail box, and you can even use the number to text with people, either through the Google Voice app (if you want to keep things separate) or your phone’s messaging app.

For writers, WordPress is free and you can set up a very simple blog-style website. It’s a perk when people have a reason to check in with you, like predictable new content, such as a blog. I have my site set up with a contact page, which includes my phone number, email, Facebook link, as well as a link to my Appointy schedule page and MailChimp sign up, in case they want to schedule an appointment with me or join my newsletter. The only maintenance I have to do on the page is adding blog entries. If you’re unsure about your writing skills, there are several copy writing programs available online. I love Marie Forleo, so I’m considering her Copy Cure program.

Of course, Twitter, Snap Chat, Instagram, Google+, and all the other social networking sites are also free and offer other ways to get attention and potential clients. I find myself busy enough with Facebook, WordPress, and Twitter, so I don’t get into the other sites much at this time. Maybe when I’m able to quit my “day job” and focus 100% on Reiki I’ll have more time for that stuff. 🙂 I haven’t read it myself, but I just heard about the book Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook, which gives information about appropriately utilizing social media. I plan to pick up a copy.

For about $6/month, I have set up a decent web presence. I hope you can utilize some of the ideas here so that you can set up your own small business without the burdens of large capital investments.

What jewels have you found in establishing and promoting your business? Do you know of better options than I’ve found? I’d love to hear from you about how you started on a shoestring.

With much love, light, and gratitude,

Jen

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Reiki = meditation?

I have always wanted to be a meditator. And a yogi. I have seen tons of research about how much better life is when you meditate and/or regularly practice yoga. I love both when I do them. I am fully aware of the benefits of daily practice. But I have a secret. I just can’t do it.

I have apps and mp3s and videos galore. I do some of them sometimes. In an ideal world, I would do all of them every day. I have even tried scheduling the activities. It was at this point when I realized – I’d have to quit my job and stay home all day to accomplish all these goals.

Just as I was beginning my Reiki Master Teacher training, I decided that if I was going to be serious about being a Reiki Master, I needed to develop a daily practice. (Yes – yet another daily obligation!) I have a fantastic app on my phone (Insight Timer) that I have used for years to time my Reiki self-treatments. It allows users to set interval bells, which keep me moving through the hand positions, which frees me from worrying about how long I’ve been doing it and whether I’m late for something else I need to be doing. I set the amount of time in advance, and I know I’ll get a full treatment because I’ve set the interval bells ahead of time.

Adding this additional daily practice initially caused me a good dollop of stress. I was trying to keep up on my Reiki, which was being tracked by my app, and trying to meditate daily, which was being tracked by another app. Yoga wasn’t happening, period. On top of all this, I was injured at work, which made me require more sleep than usual. I finally admitted to myself: this isn’t going to happen.

When I accepted that I will never be a master meditator or yogi, I realized something that was staring me in the face the whole time. I was already in a daily meditation practice. No, I wasn’t sitting in lotus position, chanting “Om”, clearing my mind of the endless chatter. Instead, I was laying on my bed, silently chanting my Reiki symbols, focusing on my hand positions, which blocked out endless mind chatter. I was using a meditation timer app to track this, yet it never really dawned on me. No, I wasn’t meditating, I was healing. Ha! What a fool I’ve been.

I love self-improvement. It is a strong drive in my life, as evidenced by the tremendous amount of expectation I put on myself by demanding three separate daily practices. I also love self-love, so I think the best lesson I got out of this realization is that I was being way too hard on myself. I do think that we should strive to be the best we can be. I do think that it’s good to at least try things that are meant to help us make our days more fulfilling. But I also think we can relax a little bit about how strenuously we execute these activities. It doesn’t have to be hard or painful or full of suffering. Why was I trying to fix something that wasn’t broken? Because I was mislabeling what I was actually doing. I wasn’t giving my personal Reiki practice enough credit to meet the needs I was wanting to be filled. It was, by far, the activity I was most committed to – dare I say my favorite. It was the part of my day I felt the most rejuvenated. It was directly affecting my mood and energy levels throughout my work week. When I stopped seeing it as a separate activity, I was able to allow it to fill my own personal requirements for a daily practice. Now I am free to engage in other types of meditation as activities I enjoy when I have time for them. (I admit, I still want to get into that daily yoga habit!)

If you’re attuned to Reiki and aren’t using it daily, why not give it a try? Take the Insight Timer app for a spin. See if daily self-treatments are well-rounded enough to streamline your spiritual practice. At the very least, don’t automatically discount it as a completely separate activity, needing a completely separate commitment. Maybe a little Reiki can meet all your needs.

Do you practice Reiki self-treatments regularly? What have you noticed since you began? How many daily practices do you have, and how do you fit them all into your day? I’d love to hear how you balance it all!

With much love, light and gratitude,

Jen

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Fighting fears with abundance

I recently sat down and calculated how many Distance Reiki sessions I’d need to do to quit my job. It was an astonishingly small number, and I was thrilled! So much so that I shared this number with my partner. “If I do just 5 Reiki sessions a day, 5 days a week, I’ll make more than I do at my job and I can quit.” He got on board immediately, and challenged me to double that so he can quit his too. Deal.

The next day, he shared a thought with me that never even crossed my mind. It was something that, even a couple of years ago, I might have thought on my own, but in my present state, didn’t even consider. “Be careful how many people you teach to be Reiki Masters, because that will leave less people for you to teach.”

Now, the old me would have gobbled up and internalized that fear so quickly, you’d think I’d come up with it myself. Actually, the old me would have beat him to the punch. How many people did I think I could reach, anyway, just little ol’ me? How could I possibly support myself with something that many people already know how to do? How could I even think that this is a viable plan for my own financial stability? There are only so many people in the world, and only so many of them really want to learn what I have to teach. And only so many of those people would actually make the financial investment in learning. So now we’re at a pretty small number, right? All those thoughts blow my lofty fantasies out of the water.

Thankfully, the new me is so much wiser, and so much more practiced in seeing crap when it’s in front of me. I immediately recognized his statement as fear. It didn’t even come close to fitting into my vibration, and it only served as inspiration to write this particular blog. His intentions were good – he was looking out for me. He didn’t want my dream to be crushed by my generosity of spirit. He wanted to protect my passion and keep my plan intact. But he was also, unknowingly, undermining my faith in all things abundant. Or he could have, if I wasn’t so savvy. 😉

Any time you think, “I can’t give _____ because then I’m giving _____ away, and then nobody will need _____,” you are cowering to fear. But here’s a little tip: that’s a load of bologna! There is not a finite number of people. People are being created every single day. A child born today could potentially find me in 20 years, with a dream of becoming a Reiki Master. And I’ll only be 64 then, so still very capable of teaching. Replace Reiki Master with your passion, change the age, and that statement applies to you, too! The world is constantly expanding – in population, in belief, in desire, in adventure, in vibration. And the secret I want you all to know is: there is no limit!

Instead of buying into his fears, and shutting down my dream before I even begin the journey, I smiled. I acknowledged that he was speaking to me, but I didn’t verbally respond. I recognized all of the things I discussed above – his good intentions, the fear they came from, and the lie that fear was telling. Then I discarded it. I am armed with abundance, just as we all are, and the only thing I’m unwilling to give away is my total trust in the fact that it is there for us. I will give my time, my heart, my energy, my knowledge. But I absolutely, will not, under any circumstances, give away my complete knowing that abundance just is.

Let me confess, this is not what I’ve always believed. And there are days, lemme tell ya, when I really have to talk myself into allowing that belief to survive in me. But when I started to pay attention, I noticed far too many examples of how abundance can beat the tar out of fear to ever turn back now. And honestly, I promise you, that is all I did: started to pay attention.

Look around you. If it’s too hard to look at your own life, look at someone else’s. Focus your gaze on abundance. Do they have a lot of money? Do they have a lot of clothes? Do they have a lot of cars? Do they have a lot of family? Do they have a lot of friends? Do they have a lot of _____? What do they have a lot of? That, my friend, is abundance. And they don’t have it because they’re special. They don’t have it because they worked hard. They don’t have it because they knew the right people, or were born into the right family, or they made a deal with the devil. They have it because they tapped into their birthright. They allow into their life what they deserve, because they recognize we all deserve it.

Fears force us to narrow our vision down to a pinpoint. “I’ll never find my dream job, because there just aren’t that many jobs available.” “I’ll never find a partner because there just aren’t that many good people available.” “I’ll never find my dream house because there just aren’t that many houses in my price range.” “I’ll never whatever because whatever!” Look at all those statements. Fear lives in the first half of the sentence, and lack of abundance lives in the second half. But if you truly embrace that abundance just is, then you can disprove every single one of them. Every. Single. One. How ridiculous would you sound if you were complaining to your friend, “I’ll never find a boyfriend because there is an abundance of great men out there.” Or, “I’ll never find my dream job because there are just so many amazing jobs available!” You get my point.

The first step is to practice catching yourself telling those fear-based lies. Once you recognize you’re doing it, you are in the perfect position to flip that bitch and tell it straight. Simultaneously, practice noticing abundance around you, even if it’s not in your own life (at first). Once you get into the habit of recognizing abundance, you’ll start to see it everywhere!

Practice the art of thought u-turns with your best friend. We all want nothing but the best for our bestest friend, right? So when they are feeling fearful and sharing those fears with you, try restructuring their statements with abundance. Now, demote that best friend to 2nd best friend, make yourself the #1 bestest friend you’ve got, and do it for yourself.

Be gentle with yourself. It takes time to rewire thought patterns, and even when you’re really good at it, you’ll never be perfect. If you have anyone in your life who’s an Expert-Level Abundant-Thinker, go to them when you’re struggling. You can borrow some of theirs until you figure out you’ve got your own. Believe me, they’ll be more than willing to share their abundance with you, because they know there’s enough to go around!

How do you fight your fears? How do you embrace your birthright of abundance? What keeps you on track? I’d love to hear all about it!

With much love, light and gratitude,

Jen

 

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Becoming a Reiki Master Teacher

I was attuned to the Reiki Master symbol on August 9, 2012. I remember finishing Level Two that July and knowing immediately that I wanted that master symbol. My own Reiki Master Teacher told me about what felt at the time to be a long, intensive process of becoming a teacher. Back then, I didn’t have the courage, confidence or interest in pursuing it. I just wanted that symbol to boost my own Reiki practice up to the ultimate level.

Throughout the years, I always knew in the back of my head that being a Teacher was possible. It seems so strange to me now that I wasn’t all that interested in sharing Reiki with others in that way. I am a teacher at heart. I love being a leader, I love sharing knowledge, I love sparking inspiration in people. I was once a dog trainer, which is really just a people teacher. So why was I uninterested in teaching this – the most amazing body of knowledge I have acquired? Honestly, part of it was the money. And the other part was the time commitment. It just seemed hard. So I never took it seriously.

Just a couple of weeks ago, I was getting my monthly massage from my wonderful massage therapist, and somehow Reiki popped up in conversation. I can’t even tell you how, it was one of those things that just happens because it’s meant to. She told me her story of wanting to be a Reiki Master Teacher since she was a teenager. About 8 years ago, she found a Teacher who gave her a Reiki session and she joined her class. At that time, the Teacher told her she had too much “heaviness” in her life, and that she wasn’t ready. My heart broke. My soul cried. What a terrible experience she had! And so senseless. If anything, Reiki could have helped her through and potentially saved her from her worries at that time. She confessed to me that, while she held on to her dream, she never sought out training again.

Immediately, I contacted my Reiki Master Teacher, who is a wonderfully elegant, beautiful, wise, soulful, loving person. I asked if she knew anyone in my area, but she didn’t. And she asked me the simplest question: why didn’t I help her? Her story inspired me. I don’t want seekers to be shot down in their mission! I want to guide them and help them and cheer them on. So why didn’t I? Oh yeah, I never finished the Teacher training!

The next day, I met with my Teacher on Skype. We started the process of teaching me the attunement process. A week later, I became a Reiki Master Teacher! I am exhilarated and excited and inspired by this new skill. The work flowed through me as though it was always there, just waiting for me to summon it. It was easy and quick and natural. It all made so much sense to me.

There is a peace within me now. If anyone ever tells me a story of feeling called to Reiki, I can teach them. Nobody ever has to feel like they aren’t ready, or it isn’t right for them, because I believe it is right for everybody, if they’re asking.

Reiki has always been such a blessing to me. It has guided me through an evolution that continues every day. One of the most beautiful gifts Reiki has given me is the calm that comes from knowing that I am right where I am meant to be, always. I feel Reiki summoning an expansion. I am honored to be a  most recent participant in that expansion, by believing enough in myself to empower myself to pass on the knowledge and gift of Reiki. It has been so humbling to give Reiki healings throughout the years, but there is an extra special-ness in knowing that I won’t just be healing, but empowering others to use Reiki in their own lives. Not just to be an observer, not just to receive Reiki, but to invoke it themselves. To invite the life force into their own lives on a day to day basis. I am in my bliss.

With much love, light and gratitude,

Jen

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Dissing disappointment

Two things happened recently that brought disappointment into my focus. First, I was re-watching a video by Abraham-Hicks. In it, Abraham talked to a woman who had just found out her husband was having an affair. Abraham shared with the woman how silly marriage vows are – til death do we part? To Abraham, a more vibrationally expansive set of “vows” would consist of, “I really like you, and you really like me, let’s see where this goes.”

The other thing that happened to me was a friend canceled plans with me. This immediately triggered thoughts about what her true motives for cancelling were, and how dare she put something else in front of me. I felt hot as all these thoughts and presumptions rose in me, until I finally realized how terribly uncomfortable I was.

Let’s be honest – we all get disappointed regularly. Sometimes it’s a small whisper. (Damn, I didn’t win the lottery!) Sometimes it’s a sting. (How dare you cancel plans with me!) And sometimes it cuts you like a knife. (My parents don’t parent me the way I want to be parented, or, my spouse cheated on me.) The source of it all, though, is the realization that the parties involved did not value your desires over their own.

So let’s look at my friend cancelling on me, and my strong internal reaction. (Fortunately, I was able to do this for myself before I created too much drama around it.) When I was able to identify the fact that I was disappointed, and that it was just one night and not the end of the world, I was able to reel myself in. She wasn’t putting me over her own desires. She was tired, she felt burned out, she just wanted to be home and recuperate from her activities of the past few days. And how silly was it that my ego demanded that she ignore her own needs and tend to my desire to have a light shining on me?! I was able to take it a step further and remind myself that by demanding she keep plans with me, I was as guilty as she was. If I were to cause a big fight over it, I was putting my own needs ahead of hers, which is exactly what I was so disappointed about!

A crisis was averted and I did not share my feelings of disappointment with her. I told her we’d reschedule and left it alone. And do you know what happened? She changed her mind. She got a second wind and decided that she did want to keep our plans afterall. Of course, that won’t happen every time, but it makes it pretty sweet when you get out of your own way and wind up getting what you wanted. Additionally, I was much less emotionally attached to the event. It was fun, and we had a good time, but it just wasn’t the big event I thought it would be when I felt so betrayed by it being canceled. Had I made a big deal about how wronged I felt, we might not be speaking. We definitely would not have been able to enjoy the evening the way we did. Funny how these things work out.

Of course, that was an example of a medium-sized disappointment. Not fleeting, but having the potential to cause problems in a relationship. But what about the big ones? The ones that cut you to the core? It’s ok, folks…just breathe. It’s really the same thing. It just might take a little more work for you to talk your ego off the ledge and let it go. But the process is the same. Realize that the other person is simply thinking of themselves first – which is actually the healthiest way to be (even if they’re not demonstrating it in the healthiest of ways) and exactly what you’re doing. Check in with yourself about whether your expectation was realistic or fair for the other person. Did my folks have the tools necessary to be the perfect parents I wish I had? Did my partner have the tools to live up to their vows, like forever? When I was younger, did we enter into contracts that were simply unrealistic? Did I make a commitment that was unrealistic? Has my own growth moved me into a place in my life where these expectations, agreements and commitments are really outdated and obsolete? All of these types of questions can really get you off the ledge enough to look at the situation through a different lens. And sometimes, that’s enough relief to set you on a path to peace with a situation.

How do you deal with disappointment? What tools do you use to keep yourself off that ledge and in a place of harmony?

With much love, light and gratitude,

Jen

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Sagey reflections of a non-sage

The past month has been a whirlwind for me. I flew to Portland to watch my daughter graduate high school, and I just returned from a trip to Seattle to watch my cousin tie the knot. Witnessing these significant life events have forced me to reflect on beginnings – and endings – and what advice, if any, I would pass along to these young, bright women.

Writing my daughter’s graduation card, I took a long pause. Before I cluttered it with my own feelings about what she should do or what I thought about what she did do, I managed to check myself and realize none of that matters. I wanted to carefully word my sentiments to give her all the credit for her choices. I’m not sure I was able to completely remove myself from my words to her, but I tried my best to remove any words that would imply judgement and stick to sentiments that support her freedom of choice. After all, she chose to finish high school. She chose to put in the work to get done on time, with her friends. It was all her doing, not anyone else’s.

For my cousin’s wedding, well…I’m still stuck on that one. I’m utilizing the “you have a year to send a gift” loophole and really taking my time. She wants advice and thoughts from older friends and family – advice about marriage and life and whatnot. Honestly, my first road block that flew up was, “Who am I to give her any advice? I got divorced!” Nobody has a crystal ball. We can only be about as helpful as a Magic 8 Ball.

What I’ve learned in my 43 years is that the most important thing one can do is stay creative. Create the world, the job, the life, the home, the experiences you want. Being creative does not necessarily mean you are artistic. Being creative means you’re participating in your growth. I think this is the best thing anyone – at any age or stage – can do for themselves. Stay true to you, and create you. Let go of wanting any other person to do it for you, or be who you want them to be.

With much love, light and gratitude,

Jen

 

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Breathe in…breathe out…start over

I have been licensed as an Esthetician since 2006 and a Reiki Master Practitioner since 2012. Learning Reiki was the best thing I’ve ever done in my entire life. Seriously. It gave me power over my own stress, health, spiritual and physical state. Additionally, it gave me access to a healing energy source so I can help others gain power over all those things. As soon as I was attuned to the master symbol, I couldn’t wait to utilize it in my skin care business. I think I might have done just as many Reiki sessions as I did facials, which was fine by me. As much as I love giving facials, the Reiki was always so much more rewarding, so necessary for my soul.

About a year before I moved to Arizona, I slowly slipped away from my esthetics and Reiki business. I had gone back to work with animals in a veterinary dermatology practice (not a huge leap) and was able to use Reiki on a few animals through that practice. That was a real wow experience for me. Animals can’t fake it. There’s no placebo in animals. Yet, they were transformed. Even though I already believed whole-heartedly in the power and benefits of Reiki, it blew me away.

In the chaos of moving from Oregon to Arizona, and because of all the time needed to really settle into a new home, I lost my motivation to pursue offering Reiki healings. I helped out at a fundraiser once, and offered complimentary Reiki, but that was about it. I just got out of the habit. But the great thing about Reiki is, once you’re attuned, you’re always open.

After 2 years, I recently went in for acupuncture from my favorite community acupuncture place. (Phoenix Community Acupuncture) She asked me if anyone had called me for Reiki, and told me she’s out of my business cards. I had completely forgotten about leaving cards – and the possibility of someone actually calling me! She told me to make sure she has plenty of cards on hand. As I drifted off into acu-land, I started thinking…why don’t I do Reiki? Oh yeah, it’s the website maintenance and the space rent and the printing costs and the brochure design and don’t forget to order more business cards – then drive them around to different places and hope you’re not throwing that money away. Then maybe, just maybe, someone will call.

Technology has come so far, even since I started my business a few years ago. Nobody needs a website anymore. You can reach so many more people so much faster through Facebook than a website that’s just sitting out there, waiting for people to find it. Nowadays, it doesn’t have to take so much time to create your presence. It can be quick and be part of your day, all day. So I don’t have to become consumed with all those little business-y details – I can focus my energy on the healing.

So today I breathe in…I breathe out…and I’m starting over. Simply. My focus is on healing and nurturing. I don’t want to get caught up in the trap of exhausting my resources planning for the work. I will just do the work, and allow it to find me.

I have a deep gratitude for everyone who is sharing my journey, either through the internet or in person. Through my life, I have met so many amazing, beautiful people and they are precious gems to me, more valuable than anything. Close by and even far away, I feel their love and support and my heart runneth over.

To a new day, and a new start!

With much love, light and gratitude,

Jen

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